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Every Heart Restored : A Wife's Guide to Healing in the Wake of a Husband's Sexual Sin (The Every Ma- WaterBrook Press |
Not much help for the wife!
2005-10-27
I don't know what Stephen Afterburn's deal is, but he should really stick with ministering to just men in the Every Man Series. I read Every Woman's Battle and even talked to friends about it - that applied to no one I knew or to me. When I finally confronted my husband and insisted he admit he had a problem and get help, I sought help. I found this book and thought maybe it might help - it was supposedly written specifically for the wife of a man with this struggle! This book was no help whatsoever. It leaves the overall lingering question exactly what struggle? There are also no outlines or actions suggested for the wife! You end up after reading as lost as you were when you began!
The husband confessed to the clueless wife and they lived happily ever after with no other encounter with the problem! Very unrealistic for the majority! The perspective from the husband would be helpful for any naive woman out there who hasn't had a man just give it to her straight about how men are - and the man who did that for me was much better at it than this author. But I guess that part earns the minimum rating of one star. There are better books. I would suggest a better one that I did find called Because I Said Forever; but it appears to be out of print. If you want help with your husband's addiction; the ONLY value this book would have to you is if you are really totally clueless about how a man is wired - the man's perspective is helpful; but still, it's not complete. But it might be a place for you to start. I would say that it even goes and walks on the edge of not coming out and saying it that "it's just how men are." And it was written without coming out and just using that as an excuse for men. Don't waste your money on this one! 
Mixed
2005-09-28
I purchased this book for a wonderful & Godly friend of mine (actually my pastor's wife's sister). Her husband had been given the book "Every Man's Battle....." from a pastor he was counciling with, which was a huge blessing and help to him. Sooooo, we all thought this book would be great for her on the flip side. She was disappointed because this book mainly deals with pornography and masturbation - not direct unfaithfulness - as is her trial with her husband. He didn't deal with pornography or masturbation (they don't even have a TV or computer in their home!) When calling the help hotline # which is listed in the book, it was recommended that she read "What To Do When Your Spouse Says He Doesn't Love You Anymore" by David Clark. Look for my review on this title after I hear her feedback.
As a woman, my friend usually does not feel comfortable speaking with a man, but said the gentleman who helped her from the hotline # listed in "Every Heart Restored" was absolutely wonderful. In closing, if your husband is dealing with Pornography and/or Masturbation, the book would probably be great for you.
Mixed feelings
2005-07-08
This book has a lot of really excellent points in and can be very helpful. The beginning is VERY difficult to read as it teaches you about the males perspective, which as a betrayed wife, is not something one particularly wants to hear about. I did feel that it dealt more with pornography more than with sexual addiction - which is more what I personally was looking for. Once you're past the beginning it does become an easier read and has some good chapters in it that are healing. Not my most favorite of the books I've read thus far, but I did take some good things from it.
Some good stuff, but....
2005-05-25
This book has some good points, but my anticipation ended largely in disappointment. The book is a bit light. Though truly the only way to get through the effects of your husband's sexual addiction is through God; Brenda's portrayal leads me to believe she is either larger than life or in a bit of denial.
A really bizarre thing Brenda Stoeker wrote was "... two dear old school chums who... suddenly and inexplicable found ourselves in bed together." This oddity begins in the second to the last paragraph on page 222 and continues onto page 223. I am still shocked that she would write something so flip. To describe intimacy with her husband as being like fornication, in my opinion, is completely irresponsible. Considering the primary audience for this book is women who are newly and/or deep in suffering through the reality of their husband's illicit sex, her words are really insensitive. Perhaps Fred's mental adultery is far enough behind them that she can talk so "lightly" about such things, but it shows disrespect for the majority of readers. Also, it is flat out bizarre and out of context in Christian self-help! The book has some good stuff so it really is unfortunate she tossed in that bit of trash and, in my eyes, did much to discredit herself. Take this book with a grain of salt and, if you haven't already, find really good Christian therapists for yourself and husband! Good luck to all of you in one of the most painful trials of your life. Helpful books for you and him: Any of the Boundaries books, How to Act Right When Your Spouse Acts Wrong, Trapped in the Mirror, The Narcissistic Family, writings by Patsy Rae Dawson (gospelthemes.com), Douglas Weiss. Ph.D (sexaddict.com), Mark Laaser (faithfulandtrueministries.com and Edwin Cole, especially Maximized Manhood 
Understanding is the key
2004-11-30
Marriage and all relationships are about seeking to understand the other. This requires a mindset that is selfless in the respect that our goal is to look for and imploy ways to serve the other. This does not mean being a doormat, but sometimes can require that one decides to willingly endure a difficult situation in order that another person can grow to be a better person, happier, or more fulfilled. Understanding the other, then employing merciful and healing words and ways is the only hope to growing together in a relationship. We are willing to sacrifice much financially and emotionally for the sake of our children's growth and development, and yet we think people over the age of 18 are magically whole and perfect. None of us are, and so when we err, we appreciate another's mercy and understanding as we try to correct and heal.
This book addresses the topic respectfully and offers practical wisdom. It guides the heart of the reader through a path to understanding of both husband and wife who are strugging with the aftermath of sexual sin of the husband. In detail, it very accurately describes the motivation of the husband, how the wife is hurt by these acts, and what must be done to set the groundwork for healing and restored relationship. The promise lies in the testimonies of those who have persued this path, dispite the intense difficulty, and found healing and the relationship that they had always dreamed of. However, each of us has the choice to act on the wisdom, or not. Personally, this book helped me identify and put into words what I was feeling and why. It helped me understand my husband better and so show mercy because of the struggle that has been raging inside him. It helped me understand ways that I may help him and reasons why I should. We are on the path to personal healing which will result in drawing our marriage relationship closer than it could have ever been before going through this struggle. I highly recommend this book, especially for Christian couples.  Read for more: http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html%3FASIN=1...
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